Do you struggle to maintain peace in your home? Have you found yourself feeling like you don’t have a voice? Do you find yourself in the same dead-end arguments with your partner, kids, friends or employers? Do you feel like you need to yell to be heard?
No one likes conflict. It makes us feel uncomfortable, awkward, and defensive. Think about a time where you witnessed others in conflict, what was that experience like for you? Challenging situations can bring up conflict and leave us feeling frustrated.
Conflict is normal and natural. We can’t expect people to agree on everything 100% of the time. Dealing with conflict on the other hand can feel like a far cry from healthy or beneficial. If we try to avoid the conflict or wish it away it just festers and gets bigger. This usually leads to a pattern of arguments about the same issue with no resolve, it can be exhausting.
It’s equally exhausting if the conflict is ignored and/or avoided as it will increase tension in the relationship. Unspoken conflict can make shared space feel tense even if it is silent. Unresolved conflict leads to resentment. This resentment can build each time we find ourselves in a space with unresolved conflict or if a new conflict arises.
Conflict resolution therapy teaches coping skills to help you navigate the conflict towards resolution or compromise. Conflict is normal and expected to happen in relationships whether they are personal or professional. The bottom line is that any relationship is going to experience conflict and it is a healthy part of our relationships.
Conflict resolution therapy can help by teaching you how to cope with conflict. We focus on what the source of the conflict is and how to find a resolution or compromise. The therapist will help you move away from assigning blame or passing judgement into a solution focused space that moves forward.
Together we will explore what coping skills work and feel comfortable for you. These skills will replace behaviors like shutting down or becoming defensive. You will learn tools to help you regulate your emotions as you navigate the conflict without sapping all of your energy. Most importantly you will learn that you cannot control others, but you can control your own responses.
All relationships experience conflict, it’s normal and natural. It is crucial to learn to handle conflict in a meaningful and healthy way as they are an expected part of life. If you need to find your voice reach out to us to talk about how conflict resolution therapy can help you. Your therapist will partner with you to create a plan that works for you. Conflict resolution therapy can prepare you to manage any situation that comes your way.